(¶56)
We all recognise that young children are prevented from making each other's
lives a misery by fear of being punished by a parent. That fits Hobbes'
theory. But does anything else operate? The symbolic interactionists argue
that, through play, the human child learns to imagine him or herself as the
other person. When tempted to hurt a sibling, therefore, the child is aware
that the sibling has feelings like him or her. Each child identifies with
the other and this "mutual love" (as Locke would have described it) acts as
a force within the children against tumbling into a "war of all against
all". But, as we all know, it is an unstable condition, and the child's
self interest tending to be stronger than his or her awareness of the
other's feelings, the nursery floor very easily tumbles into a war of all
against all. The parent's authority is sometimes necessary to restore
peace, but, according to Locke, it is not the only force acting in that
direction. The naturally acquired reason of human beings is on the side of
civilisation.